Dancing with the Divine Masculine & Divine Feminine
As we step into the new year, I find myself reflecting on the profound lessons life presents us, especially in the intricate dance between the Divine Masculine and Feminine. At Men of Integrity retreats, we delve deep into understanding and embodying these sacred energies, recognizing their interplay as essential to personal growth and relational harmony.
I'd like to share a personal experience that beautifully illustrates this divine dance and the transformative power of holding space for authentic expression. It's a story that not only sheds light on the essence of our teachings but also serves as a testament to the healing that occurs when we truly embody these principles.
DANCING WITH THE DIVINE MASCULINE AND FEMININE
It has been quite the beginning of the new year. I wanted to share some lessons that I have been percolating on regarding the containment of the Divine Feminine, offering it safety and trust so one can express oneself in their deepest capacity.
My woman had been through the wringer in terms of life changes. She went into the hospital, which pulled her into a deep feeling of aloneness. Concurrently, her parents sold her childhood home, which expressed itself as being untethered in the world- for a moment.
Emotion ran extremely hot and strong for nearly a month, crescendoing into “I AM SO FUCKING ANGRY! I JUST WANT TO FIGHT WITH SOMEONE! I WANT TO FIGHT WITH YOU! I AM SO FUCKING ANGRY”
TWO OPTIONS HERE:
OPTION 1: Meet her with my own feminine chaos reaction, making it about myself “WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT? THIS ISN’T ABOUT ME! I DIDN’T DO ANYTHING!”
Defense…
Avoidance…
Withdrawal….
Yes, we can choose to flood the territory with our own reaction, chaos, emotion, and fighting…
Adding more water to an already Turbulent Storm, Tears...
Wailing….
Anger..,
Hurt…
Adding Fuel to the Fire
OR
OPTION 2: Meet her with Divine Masculine Integrity, letting her BEING know that YOU ARE the safe place… letting her know that she can express herself FULLY… even in her RAGE…HURT… ANGUISH, letting her KNOW in the DEEPEST part of herself that “YOU ARE a SAFE place,” that you can HOLD her whirlpool of chaos and ALLOW her to RELEASE the floodwaters of everything she is…
through her process…
I SUPPORT her to give form to her AUTHENTIC expression of ALL that she is in this PRESET moment...
Think about it…
What can YOU be for HER so that SHE can be for YOU?
I hold her in her TENSION with COMFORTING SOFTNESS, I w.h.i.s.p.e.r. in her ear, “I love you,” “I am here,” “You are not alone.” “I am with you no matter what you are feeling.” “I am strong enough to hold you in your darkest hour,” “I love you,” “It’s ok to feel your anger and rage,” “Let it flow, I… am… with… you…” “I UNDERSTAND YOU…”
I feel her soften… ANGER melts into sadness…she sobs as I ASSURE she is not alone….
The next morning, I was driving to meet a client…
“Dosed” from the Red Hot Chili Peppers is playing on my Spotify, and I am snot-sobbing in my car… overwhelmed with GRATITUDE for this SADNESS…
GRATITUDE for SADNESS?
SO MUCH SADNESS... SO MUCH GREIF… SO MUCH WITNESSING of my feminine partner’s full expression of her beingness.
Gratitude for this sorrow, which is a manifestation of the LOVE I feel for this sweet, tender, luscious being. Recognizing that I would not be able to feel this sorrow if I had not also been able to be so brilliantly energized by reveling in her joyful expression of her beingness..
And it felt so good!
GRATITUDE for my SORROW…
GRATITUDE for LOVE...
GRATITUDE for the Divine Feminine in ME that has the opportunity to feel the rich sensuousness of this life, this consciousness, this recognition, this connection with our divinity, our humanity….
I text my mother:
I'm about to sit with a client, and I wanted to thank you for this life you gave to me. What a marvelous story it has been so far. Interesting and intricate... a blessing, a pain, a joy, and a sorrow.
I see these beings, and it's so much to hold and be tender for. I learned so much from you and Papa. I am so overwhelmed with joy that you are my parents because you taught me so much. So much...
If you think you can't feel it, reach just a little further because it's always there...
Cada uno es un mundo, is so true..
I love you, Mama. So much, and I am awash with gratitude for all of it.
I love you♥️
Thank you, thank you, thank you…
The client was awash in the portal of healing… reconnecting with their own Divine Nature… I gathered wisdom from them… and they harvested wisdom from our being together in the sacred space… remembering who they are and why they came here…
This journey of holding space, meeting the storm with a calm presence, and allowing authentic expression is at the heart of what we strive to teach and embody at the Men of Integrity retreats.
It's a reminder of the strength in softness, the courage in vulnerability, and the profound healing that arises from the harmonious interplay of the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine within us all.
Join us in exploring this sacred dance, learning to be the safe harbor in the tempest, and discovering the depths of connection and understanding that await when we embrace these divine principles in our lives and relationships.
With gratitude and openness,
Michael Tierno, Men of Integrity Retreats
PS: The story was relayed with my partner's consent - we are doing this together!